What is Love?  A Conversation with a “ friend”

Dear friend,

As I sit here, contemplating our recent conversation, I can't help but feel the weight of the profound and honest space you and I can find ourselves in. It's a space where our hearts and minds often struggle to comprehend the vastness of God's love, despite the "church answer" we often hear. You know, there's a verse that has been resonating with me since our conversation, and I believe it captures the very essence of this heart/mind dilemma we're discussing. It's 1 John 4:11, which says, "Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God, but if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is made complete in us."

This verse beautifully captures the tension we experience as humans. We are called to be reflections of God's love, yet we are inherently flawed and broken. Sometimes, maybe actually often, we unintentionally project our own patterns and experiences onto God, distorting the true nature of His love.

But here's the incredible thing, my friend: God has placed faith in your heart, assuring you that He is love, even when the wrestle feels all too real. And you're not alone in this struggle; many of us grapple with the same questions and doubts. Verse 13 continues, "This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us his Spirit." The Spirit dwells within you, my friend, testifying and affirming this truth, even when you can't feel it in the depths of your being.

Now, let me share with you one of my all-time favorite verses, which has brought me immense comfort and hope throughout my journey: 1 John 4:18. It says, "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." This verse grasps the beautiful paradox of our faith—a journey that is both complete in Christ and yet ongoing. It reminds me that healing, transformation, and forgiveness are all integral parts of growth, as I strive to be made perfect in love.

So, my friend, let's embrace this journey together. Let's keep moving forward, like turtles as I often remind, taking one day, one moment at a time, knowing that our ultimate completion in Christ will come either when we pass away or when He returns. In the meantime, let's hold each other accountable to surrounding us with people who will support and encourage this path, helping us to know and live out Christ's love more and more while breaking the patterns, behaviors and relationships that speak against this truth. Remember, you are not alone in this struggle. We're in it together. Turtle On

With love,

Lara